Eat the Humble Pie

Addiction tries to isolate you. It tries to place you as separate and in a different place than others. That different place is often times above others. Addiction starts by the Ego giving us narratives to place ourselves as more important than those around us. I have found that I am able to better fight my addictions when I eat the humble pie. What I mean by this, is that when I am wrong, or when someone else has a better idea than I do. I accept it. Or if I make a mistake, I quickly admit it. When we allow the narratives the ego feeds us to stay, that we are more important than others, that we are smarter than others, that we have more money and are more successful than others, etc. This gives the ego energy and ammo to justify wrong actions. Before we know it, we are taking advantage of situations and people.

I am currently trying to find a balance between being confident but yet humble. Humility is a skill that needs to be refined always. We have to be confident in our own thoughts and abilities but we also need to be open and ready to listen and accept other people’s thoughts. Also, when we are guilty of protecting our own self-image, a lot of times we are protecting our ego. The ego must die in order for us to succeed. Comparison is the death of progression.

I recently finished the book by Glennon Doyle called “Untamed”. She speaks about the courage it takes to break away from our societal conditioning. We are all conditioned by our communities, religions, families, etc. to see the world in a specific way. When we hold on to those views so tightly, we are allowing the ego to dominate. We don’t know what we don’t know, and we can’t learn unless we are willing to see other views and ideas. Religion is a perfect example. If we are so confident that we have all of the answers, how could we ever be humble enough to accept a different perspective? When I think of this the song “Imagine” by John Lennon pops into my head.

Lyrics below:

Imagine there’s no heaven
It’s easy if you try
No hell below us
Above us only sky
Imagine all the people living for todayImagine there’s no countries
It isn’t hard to do
Nothing to kill or die for
And no religion too
Imagine all the people living life in peace, youYou may say I’m a dreamer
But I’m not the only one
I hope some day you’ll join us
And the world will be as oneImagine no possessions
I wonder if you can
No need for greed or hunger
A brotherhood of man
Imagine all the people sharing all the world, youYou may say I’m a dreamer
But I’m not the only one
I hope some day you’ll join us
And the world will be as one

Glennon Doyle is an example to all of us of how to live in a world where she doesn’t care about judgement of others. She has allowed her ego to die, and she has exposed her true beautiful self to the world. Check out this interview with Brené Brown and Glennon Doyle: https://brenebrown.com/podcast/glennon-doyle-brene-on-untamed/

#glennondoyle #brenebrown #nofap #addictionrecovery #healthyliving #mindfulness #mindset #psychology #fightthenewdrug #pornkillslove #considerbeforeconsuming #sexaddiction #egodeath

That Unrelenting Freaking Negative Ego

So over the last few years I have loved when I find world leaders guiding the world’s best to a higher level. I think that is part of the reason I love learning so much, is because I have the opportunity to learn from the world’s best. We all have the opportunity to learn from the World’s Best. You can find so much amazing and uplifting content on #Youtube. You can also find some really negative garbage on Youtube that could drag you down to the abyss. I recently have plugged in to listen to #EdMylett. He is a positive and uplifing warrior.

Negative thoughts weigh at least 3 times more than positive thoughts. That means that we have to at the very least have 3 positive thoughts to every negative thought to balance everything out.

Trevor Moawad in this podcast talks about how Negative thoughts are 4-7% more powerful or more effective than positive thoughts. Now if you speak these negative thoughts it compounds their impact by a multiple of 10. So that means that if you speak a negative thought it is now 40-70% more powerful and effective.

Trevor was named the “Sports World’s Best Brain Trainer” by Sports Illustrated. From Ft. Bragg to Harvard Business School, from elite Quarterbacks to top level CEOs. Moawad’s mission is clear – to motivate the motivated. Check his website out here:

Listen this is my new addiction. This type of content is what makes me super excited to confront the day. When I played soccer in college and growing up, I would get the biggest butterflies of excitement before every game. This type of content now does this for me.

This is also a realization. I have been addicted to sex and pornography because it changed my biology. It released dopamine into my brain and bloodstream, so it would change my mood. It just took me years to find out that the emotion I was feeling was hollow and insufficient. So I would seek it more. When you find complete and wholesome content like this, it is full of phytonutrients for your soul. This stuff doesn’t sit on your stomach like those Doritos or candy does. This content builds you from the inside out.

I read today in the book: “Positivity Groundbreaking Research Reveals How to Embrace the Hidden Strength of Positive Emotions, Overcome Negativity, and Thrive” by Barbara L. Fredrickson, PH.D., the following:

“Considering these differences, scientists have suggested that you replace about 1 percent of your cells each day. That’s 1 percent today, another 1 percent tomorrow, amounting to roughly 30 percent by next month, and 100 percent by next season.”

Our habits are what make us. If our body from the core root level remakes itself every 3 months. Did you catch that, and are you understanding that? Our cells remanufacture themselves on an average every 3 months or so.

I know that the nasty negative nancy ego inside of our heads can be annoying and persistent sometimes. I hate that negative gremlin living inside of my head. Just yesterday I had cravings to feel a dopamine kick.

In order to get a mental reset, You have to combat the negative thoughts with positive ones. When a negative thought comes into your mind, you have to jab it in the face with 3 positive thoughts, and never ever say negative thoughts out loud because it only compounds the work you have to do to balance it all out.

Go listen to this podcast right now. My favorite part is where #TrevorMoawad talks about working with Russell Wilson after he threw the interception to lose the Super Bowl. He talked about what they did after that to come out of that negative mindset.

#Edmylett #maxout #trevormoawad #positivepsychology #barbaralfredrickson #nofap #addictionrecovery #healthyliving #mindfulness #mindset #psychology #fightthenewdrug #pornkillslove #considerbeforeconsuming #sexaddiction

Feelings are Chemical Reactions

Over the last couple of years, I have tried to be more conscious and aware of the thoughts that I allow to live, breathe, and take up space in my mind. In my personal study in the books I have read and the podcasts that I have listened to, the theme is the same. Business owners, influencers, and powerful people are the gatekeepers to their own minds. They have a vision of what they want to accomplish and they protect that vision and that goal of what they are going to achieve, like it was their baby. That vision is at the center of everything that they do in life. It is their motivation, their inspiration, and their energy. It is driven by their vision and goal of what they want to achieve.

My driving force right now is helping others. I feel an internal calling to help two clans of people. Number 1. Men that are addicted to sex and pornography. Number 2. Parents of kids with special needs.

Because life circumstances have blessed me with the ability to find resources to help heal myself, and because life circumstances have allowed for me to get whatever support and services that my special needs boy needs; I would like to share my learnings with those 2 tribes of people.

I think the paramount and most important part of overcoming a porn/sex addiction, or to overcome the overwhelming discouragement that comes from having your kid diagnosed with special needs, is framing your outlook and perspective. You can choose to see the negative and wallow in self misery, or you can rise up, choose to see the positive, and take on the world.

Emotions are chemical reactions. When we have thoughts, chemical reactions are happening within our body and our brain. Hormones are released that dictate what mood or energy that we will feel. When we have negative thoughts, negative hormones are released, like cortisol the stress hormone. When we are stressed, we are just worried about protecting ourselves and our loved ones. We can’t think about advancement or progression, because we are too worried about what things are going to challenge us and take us down.

When we have positive thoughts, we can start to open up and experience hope and creativity. Dr. Barbara Fredrickson says in her book: “Positivity: Groundbreaking Research Reveals How to Embrace the Hidden Strength of Positive Emotions, Overcome Negativity, and Thrive”:

“As positivity flows through our hearts, it simultaneously broadens our minds, allowing us to see both the forest and the trees.”

“Positivity changes your outlook on life. It expands your worldview. You take more in.”

“Scientific experiments confirm that people who come to the bargaining table with a cooperative and friendly spirit-riding on positivity- strike the best business deals.”

Buy the book here:

As I have tuned in to this thought and this mantra of protecting my mindset, teachers start to hit me in the face with their thoughts. Dr. Joe Dispenza is an incredible teacher. I have been sucked in by his content. He was riding his bike in a triathlon and was hit by a car. He broke his lower vertebrae and doctors wanted him to go through surgery where they would fuse his lower vertebrae together, which would make him less mobile. He was seen by a few different doctors, and each doctor told him the same thing, he needed the surgery. In the end, he decided against the surgery and he said he was going to heal himself through his thoughts.

Check out his website here:

https://drjoedispenza.com/

Here is also a interview with him and London Real where he tells his whole story:


Here is a scientific article that I read for my certification course that I am taking right now. What I am talking about is not esoteric or mumbo jumbo. It is proven by statistical science.

Positive Emotional Attractors and Negative Emotional Attractors.

https://www.frontiersin.org/articles/10.3389/fpsyg.2015.00670/full

Mindfulness definition according to Dr. Ryan Niemiec:

“Self-regulation of our attention with an attitude of curiosity, openness, and acceptance.”

Let’s talk more about this next week.

May we find Joy, Hope, and Love on our path in this life.

Shawn

#positivepsychology #DrJoeDispenza #LondonReal #EdMylett #Autism #specialneeds #specialneedsparenting #pornographyaddiction #addictionrecovery #mindset #mindfulness #DrBarbaraFredrickson #nofap #fightthenewdrug #Positivity

Mind Body Medicine

The first medical article written about Mind Body Medicine was written in 1992 by K. R. Pelletier.

https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.4278/0890-1171-6.5.345

Over the last 25+ years there have been a number of scientists that have jumped into the study of Mind Body Medicine.

PsychologyToday says: “If you ask NCCAM, the National Center for Complementary and Alternative Medicine, they’ll tell you it’s a field that “uses a variety of techniques designed to enhance the mind’s capacity to affect bodily function and symptoms.” The standard treatment approaches used in mind-body medicine include meditation, prayer, and creative outlets.”

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/head-toe-happiness/201006/what-is-mind-body-medicine

These are also other forms of Mind Body Medicine Modalities

Aromatherapy, Art Therapy, Bach-Flower Therapy, Biofeedback, Constellation Therapy, Feldenkrais method, Flower essences, Hatha yoga, Healing touch, Hypnotherapy, Journaling, Magnet Therapy, Music Therapy, Nontouch Biofield Therapy- Qigong, Reiki (touch and nontouch), Rebirthing-Breathwork, Reiki, Self-hypnosis, Somatic Experiencing, Support Groups, Tai Chi, Visualization, Yoga.

I want to introduce more people to Mind Body Medicine practices because it has been an anchor for me.

One of my favorite books that I have ever read is called: “The Body Keeps The Score.” Our body holds on to stress and that can transform into illness.

Chronic stress causes the body to release cytokines that cause inflammation throughout the body. Chronic stress impairs the immune system.

Dr. Joe Dispenza says: Meditation means to become familiar with.

I soon after heard that “Chronic Illness is a form of meditation, because it is the body telling the mind to pay attention.”

I then ran into this quote in my personal study:

“Nothing ever goes away until it teaches us what we need to know.” – Pema Chodron

My path right now is learning to meditate and learn the things I need to learn before my body starts to break down. My wellness is holy to me. I am trying to figure out more ways to process difficult and raw emotions.

One of the best things for the immune system is “Rest and Restore”. That is a really difficult thing to do in Western Society because we are such task masters. We place our self worth on what we have accomplished, instead of how we are feeling.

Why is that?

Bring in the Parasympathetic Nervous System. Calm the nervous system.

http://www.relaxationresponse.org/

#addiction #sexaddiction #pornaddiction #recovery #health #life #love #addictionrecovery #somaticexperience #hope #fightthenewdrug #nofap #totalwellness #mentalhealth

Protecting Your Environment

Today I want to talk about our environment. This is an all encompassing subject. I want to talk about both your physical environment (i.e. your home, your office, the places you spend your time) as well as your social environment that you place yourself in.

According to PositivePsychology.com:

“What is the Definition of Environmental Psychology?

According to the Journal of Environmental Psychology, the field can be defined as:

“[T]he scientific study of the transactions and interrelationships between people and their physical surroundings (including built and natural environments, the use and abuse of nature and natural resources, and sustainability-related behavior).”

https://positivepsychology.com/environmental-psychology/

“In other words, environmental psychology is all about the interplay between people and their environment.

One of the things that was hard to learn in my road to recovery from my addiction was that I had to limit my contact with people and influences that would drain my energy. Every single person on the Earth today carries an energy with them. There is an actual electrical charge that can be measured that exudes at least 3 feet from a person’s body.

Check out more about that here: https://www.graduate.umaryland.edu/gsa/gazette/February-2016/How-the-human-body-uses-electricity/

This was an ahah moment for me. Because I could remember throughout my life those type of people that would just zap your energy. When you interacted with them, your energy would be completely drained. While there were other people who would actually charge you up.

I have made it a goal in my life to spend more time with people who build my own energy and electrical charge. I think that is why I love reading books about successful business people. Right now I am reading Alicia Keys book “More Myself”. Hot damn man. She is powerful. She is a light to this world and I want to be exposed to more of her work and what she contributes to us all.

Think about it for a second. Why do you think Oprah and Tony Robbins are so wealthy and successful. It is because they have provided knowledge that empowers people. They were only lifted by lifting others.

Mel Robbins a while back posted on her Instagram feed: “Family is Family”. But she crossed off the second family and had written: “Still have to treat me like a human being”. My point here is that sometimes you have to play the gatekeeper to your own energy and well-being. Sometimes you have to deny people entrance into your environment to protect yourself from negative energy that leads to negative thoughts, that leads you down the dark tornado cycle of addiction.

Sometimes addictions are not our fault. We are caught up in them before we knew any better. However, it is your sole responsibility to bring yourself out of the darkness. Sometimes that includes making really difficult decisions like limiting time with family, or close friends that you grew up with.

Our physical environment is going to be even more important now with #Covid-19. Check out what Harvard Business School wrote about that here:

Stay Healthy and Stay Sane

I love you whoever is reading this.

Shawn

#addictionrecovery #addiction #sexaddiction #pornaddiction #recovery #health #life #love #addictionrecovery #somaticexperience #hope #fightthenewdrug #nofap #totalwellness #gatekeeperofyourmind #immunesupport #positivepsychology #aliciakeys #tonyrobbins #oprah #gatekeeperofyourenvironment #melrobbins #moremyself #harvardbusinessschool

Building A Routine to Deal with Grief

I was really excited about the schedule and the routine that I had established before this COVID-19 hit. I was attending hot yoga classes on Tuesday, Thursday, and Sunday mornings. I was also throwing in another occasional class on Saturday afternoons. I found a yoga studio that was about 7 minutes drive from my home and I was going at 6:00 am to fit it into my busy day.

I had also signed up for a 200-hour Yoga Instructor Training Course that would be offered one weekend a month finishing in August 2020.

Finally to round off my goals for 2020, I also signed up for a Functional Medicine Coaching Certification Course that is being held Wednesday mornings from 7:00- 8:30 am. This course has had zero interruptions with the exception of the Earthquake that hit smack dab in the middle of my class on March 18, 2020.

If you can’t tell, I am on this mission to up-level my certifications and the value that I can provide to myself and others in my circle.

My point being; I learned early on that a routine was vital to me for my personal growth. Establishing a routine is an outline to achieve my goals in life. It has proven to work for me since I started reading 2 books a month starting in January of 2018. I also set a block of time for my fitness and workout routine in the early stages of my addiction recovery. The morning hours between 6:00 am to 7:00 am I needed to exercise my body at least 4-5 times a week. Only after setting, establishing and following a routine did I begin to understand the benefits. Sure life happens and you miss a workout here and there, but you always have a model to go back to.

I have the type of personality that I hate being told what to do, and especially when it includes when to do it. I despised it when people tried to dictate my schedule and my workouts. So, I created my own outline of things I wanted to accomplish and I fit those things into my own schedule when I knew I could accomplish it.

Well after a few weeks into our #socialdistancing and isolation, I was feeling really down and discouraged. That is when I listened to this podcast from Brené Brown and David Kessler.

https://brenebrown.com/podcast/david-kessler-and-brene-on-grief-and-finding-meaning/

In this podcast they outlined that the feelings that I was feeling was grief and loss. This #COVID19 pandemic took away my routine. My life was completely put on hold and I have to recognize those emotions. For my Yoga Instructor Course we met through a #Zoom conference call and we all started talking about our feelings and our emotions during this difficult time. I broke down and I didn’t realize that I was coming on to 4 years of sobriety date and I was feeling out of balance. I needed to find balance again, ASAP. I don’t want to go back into the darkness of addiction and mindlessly acting. I want to be conscious of all of the decisions that I make.

Dr. David Kessler highlighted 4 stages of grief.

  1. Survival Mode- (Where you can be highly distracted and this could be a sure sign to take more time to process your emotions.)
  2. Comfort Stage – Do you have enough water, shelter and food and basic needs.
  3. Balance and Equilibrium- Your life starts to return to Normalcy.
  4. Productivity and Creativity

Here is what I learned. I need to first of all recognize this time for what it is, a unique time in human history and allow myself to feel the emotions heavily and deeply. Only then, could I move through the stages to advance to the comfort stages and work on providing my basic needs.

That is where I created a new routine and I feel like I am thriving. I now practice Yoga from 6:00 am to 7:00 am from the comfort of my own home through the mobile application called #DownDog about 4-5 times a week. I also get outside for a lunch break at least 3 times a week, where I take my son on a 30-minute jog around our neighborhood. This gives me very important time with my son, where we are both earthing and grounding and getting in touch with Earth’s electrons. Also, I am starting my day with a micro-greens tea, and I only eat lunch and dinner to cut down on calories.

Now let’s see if my routine gets thrown off again when our #stayathome orders go away. Then I will go through the same cycle again. Yipee!

Here are a couple of other articles from The Harvard Business Review that speak about routines and grief.

https://hbr.org/2020/04/the-restorative-power-of-ritual?ab=hero-main-text

https://hbr.org/2020/03/that-discomfort-youre-feeling-is-grief

#addiction #sexaddiction #pornaddiction #recovery #health #life #love #addictionrecovery #somaticexperience #hope #fightthenewdrug #nofap

Gut Health is tied to Brain Health

An old Cherokee is teaching his grandson about life. “A fight is going on inside me,” he said to the boy. “It is a terrible fight and it is between two wolves. One is evil – he is anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.” 

He continued, “The other is good – he is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion, and faith. The same fight is going on inside you – and inside every other person, too.”

The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather, “Which wolf will win?”The old Cherokee simply replied, “The one you feed.”

This story is one I hold very dear and sacred in my life. I first heard it when I was 20 years old and living in Brazil. A friend sent me this story in a letter and I have never forgotten it.

It recently popped up in my memory while I was on a run and evaluating my life. I started thinking more about this story and the analogy came to life in a movie in my mind. The question was posed “well when does the losing wolf die”? Think about it. When a wolf becomes starving for substance, what does it do? It first fights for whatever food and sustenance that you can offer it. It is willing to grit and nash it’s teeth in the fight for survival. It can become fierce and desperate for what it craves. Willing to kill and sacrifice to meet its needs.

I want to relate this to parts of our lives that we are trying to rid or shed of ourselves. For instance, I am addicted to sugar. Let’s say sugar is the evil wolf in my story. As I start to starve my body of sugar, that wolf will puff up and howl, beg and claw to get what it desires. Only after much fight and determination will the wolf start to falter and fade into the darkness.

My experience is that when you make a goal to better yourself and to shed what no longer serves you, there is always opposition. There is always a push from the opposite side to deter you. Sometimes the dark side can be presented by the people who you love. You must be true to yourself and hold strong to your inner guide and voice.The Corona virus has a lot of people full of fear. I am fearful of the economy crashing and of loved ones getting sick and not being able to fight the illness. A lot of this is stuff that I can’t control. What I can control is focusing on my own total wellness. That includes balancing my negative thoughts and emotions with positive bright and uplifting thoughts and emotions, as well as doing everything I can to maximize my physical health.

I am making a goal to practice yoga 5 times a week and to slowly start to cut out sugar. I will also make a goal to run at least 3 times a week.I have shared some podcasts and articles below that talk about things we can eat to safeguard our physical health and our mental health.Sugar for example causes inflammation. Inflammation causes pain and discomfort in the body and the mind. Eating whole natural foods gives our bodies the nutrients that we need to feel and think better. Sugar also eats up all the good bacteria in our gut. We need good bacteria to fight illness (hugely important with the Corona Virus). Here are some examples of good foods to bolster and support the good bacteria in our gut.Things like dandelion greens, garlic, onion, asparagus, artichokes, jicama, seaweed, kimchi, sauerkraut, miso, pickles, yogurts, and kombucha. Dr. Mark Hyman says:“The health of our gut microbiome greatly impacts the health of the whole body, in large part due to the hundreds of trillions of bacteria residing there, breaking down our food, fighting pathogens, controlling our metabolism, and more.”

https://www.health.harvard.edu/mind-and-mood/foods-linked-to-better-brainpower

#guthealth #addictionrecovery #addiction #sexaddiction #pornaddiction #recovery #health #life #love #addictionrecovery #somaticexperience #hope #fightthenewdrug #nofap #totalwellness #foodismedicine #immunesupport

Be More Conscious

We need to be more conscious. We need to take more accountability for our own learning, health and growth. We need to stop putting all faith and trust into institutions and massive organizations for our well being. Our mental, physical, psychological health rests on our own shoulders. Too many people are forfeiting their own health and wellness for the benefit of others. They sacrifice themselves to the alters of their job, their community, etc.

It is time to take better care of ourselves. Focus on our own total wellness.

“It is high time to rid ourselves of the notion that leisure for workmen is either lost time or a class privilege.”

  • Henry Ford FOUNDER, FORD MOTOR

The 8 hour workday didn’t come about easily. It was fought for all over the world since the early 1800’s. It wasn’t until the late 1800’s, early 1900’s that countries started to implement it. We need to create more “me” time. More time to take care of ourselves and to develop ourselves. Stop feeling guilty for taking care of yourself. You can’t offer to others if your tank is empty.

8 hours workday

https://www.cnbc.com/2017/05/03/how-the-8-hour-workday-changed-how-americans-work.html

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Eight-hour_day

The eight-hour day movement or 40-hour week movement, also known as the short-time movement, was a social movement to regulate the length of a working day, preventing excesses and abuses. It had its origins in the Industrial Revolution in Britain, where industrial production in large factories transformed working life. At that time, the working day could range from 10 to 16 hours, the work week was typically six days a week and the use of child labour was common.[1][2] Robert Owen had raised the demand for a ten-hour day in 1810, and instituted it in his socialist enterprise at New Lanark. By 1817 he had formulated the goal of the eight-hour day and coined the slogan: “Eight hours’ labour, Eight hours’ recreation, Eight hours’ rest”. Women and children in England were granted the ten-hour day in 1847. French workers won the 12-hour day after the February Revolution of 1848.[3] A shorter working day and improved working conditions were part of the general protests and agitation for Chartist reforms and the early organisation of trade unions.

Karl Marx saw it as of vital importance to the workers’ health, writing in Das Kapital (1867): “By extending the working day, therefore, capitalist production…not only produces a deterioration of human labour power by robbing it of its normal moral and physical conditions of development and activity, but also produces the premature exhaustion and death of this labour power itself.”[4][5]

Although there were initial successes in achieving an eight-hour day in New Zealand and by the Australian labour movement for skilled workers in the 1840s and 1850s, most employed people had to wait to the early and mid twentieth century for the condition to be widely achieved through the industrialised world through legislative action.

The first country to adopt eight-hour working day nationwide was Uruguay. The eight-hour day was introduced on November 17, 1915, in the government of José Batlle y Ordóñez. Nevertheless the law was not effective on all type of works.

Spain became on April 3, 1919 the first country in the world to introduce an universal law effective on all type of works, restricting the workday to a maximum of eight hours. The “Real decreto de 3 de abril de 1919” was signed by the prime minister, Álvaro de Figueroa, 1st Count of Romanones.

The first international treaty to mention it was the Treaty of Versailles in the annex of its thirteenth part establishing the International Labour Office, now the International Labour Organization.[6]

The eight-hour day was the first topic discussed by the International Labour Organization which resulted in the Hours of Work (Industry) Convention, 1919 ratified by 52 countries as of 2016.

The eight-hour day movement forms part of the early history for the celebration of Labour Day, and May Day in many nations and cultures.

#metime #conscious-living #health #wellness #totalwellness #together

The Autonomic Nervous System

The Autonomic Nervous System is involuntary or automatic. It happens without conscious thought. Your body regulates your blood pressure, heart rate, and rate of breathing by signals that are received in the nervous system. Although, your body automatically follows commands that are delivered from the command center (the nervous system), your nervous system can be regulated. Meaning that you can use conscious thought to change the commands that the nervous system is delivering and receiving. To better understand this let’s dissect the Body’s Central Nervous System.

There are 3 parts of the Autonomic Nervous System.

  1. Sympathetic System
  2. Parasympathetic System
  3. Somatic or Peripheral System

The Sympathetic System is the command center for fight or flight. This is the part of your brain and nervous system that tells your body that you are in danger. It dilates the pupils, accelerates heart rate, stimulates sweat production, increases your heart contractions and restricts blood vessels to increase blood pressure.

The Parasympathetic System is the rest and restore command center of the brain. This is the part of the brain and nervous system that tells your body to rest and recover. It commands the body to slow the heartbeat, constricts the pupils, stimulates digestion, stimulates secretion, it decreases the blood pressure.

“The sympathetic nervous system connects the internal organs to the brain by spinal nerves. When stimulated, these nerves prepare the organism for stress by increasing the heart rate, increasing blood flow to the muscles, and decreasing blood flow to the skin.

The nerve fibres of the parasympathetic nervous system are the cranial nerves, primarily the vagus nerve, and the lumbar spinal nerves. When stimulated, these nerves increase digestive secretions and reduce the heartbeat.”

The Somatic Nervous System or Peripheral Nervous System

In the process of voluntary movement, sensory neurons carry impulses to the brain and the spinal cord. (Yoga is a great form of sending sensory neurons to the brain.)

Sensory neurons or afferent neurons are sent from the 5 senses to the brain. They inform the Central Nervous System about our 5 senses. 12 pairs of cranial nerves send info to the brain stem. 31 pairs of spinal nerves send sensory information from the periphery to the spinal cord and muscle commands from the spinal cord to the skeletal muscles.

I believe that this part of the nervous system is often ignored. Our body sends messages to our brain. When our brain misinterprets these messages, we have disfunction. Eating is the easiest example. Are you eating because you need substance and crave more energy, or are you eating because of something else? I am personally addicted to sugar. I eat sugar when I am stressed, bored, or frustrated. We need to create more opportunities to listen to what our body is telling us. I believe that this is where meditation comes into place.

7. What body of work do you have to show for yourself

Become a producer of good works- Contribute positively to society

After about a year into my recovery I really started to feel this internal pull to understand my family history on both sides. I subscribed to ancestry.com and started reading more of my lineage and ancestry. I learned that my last name Blymiller is German and Russian and that the first Blymiller family to migrate to the U.S. settled in Pennsylvania. I haven’t been able to uncover a lot of the history behind this lineage but it is a lifelong goal to connect with more of my family line. 

My Mother’s maiden name is Allgood

Age omne bonum

Latin for : Do All Good

After researching more of my family line. I scheduled a trip to England so I could visit landmarks and areas that my Allgood family had migrated from. I also found this coat of arms that traces back to my earliest Allgood Ancestors courtesy of https://www.houseofnames.com/:

Here is my final step and call to action

My Call To Arms- Call to Action

Growing up I used to think that getting my college degree was so I could have the credentials to earn a good income so I could provide a good living experience to my family. As I have grown and had more experience in business, I have learned that the more that you invest in yourself, the more tools and assets that you will have to serve others. The more that you invest in yourself, the more value that you can provide to others. That really is the greatest worth. Serving others. Making their path and their experience more full and complete, and sometimes a little easier. The richest experiences I have had in my life have been from giving people more time, and more tools to do what they love and are passionate about. 

The greatest leaders in my lifetime have been Steve Jobs, Bill Gates, Oprah Winfrey, Gabrielle Bernstein, Brené Brown . They each set out to serve others. Steve Jobs created the personal computer and then the first smart-phone. Today our worlds are shaped by these products. We have more convenience in our everyday lives because of our smart-phones. We have instant access to information from around the globe and from all of history through our mobile devices. We have more ability to learn instantly at our own pace, when before access to information was gated by universities or people in control. 

I think the next generation of leaders are going to teach us how to filter through all of the information that is available at our fingertips. There are only 24 hours in a day. Where are you going to spend your waking hours? Which podcast, streaming services, music, movies, etc. will you tune in to? Our consciousness has to be raised to a level where we are guided by our own faculties and not pushed aimlessly by what is trending. 

I believe that is why we are seeing more of a trend of meditation, yoga, and spiritual work. Our inner voice has to be the guide that we seek to learn what we are meant to learn to become our highest selves. Will you be molded into what you are meant to be, or will you be molded into what others want you to be? Businesses are vying for our time and our money. What you believe in will be more of what you spend your time and your money on. 

Here is what I believe in. Time is money. Time is holy. Where do you spend your time? Do you unconsciously consume your days away, or do you work hard to produce to serve others? What works are you creating and working on today that are going to make for a better tomorrow? Your work doesn’t have to be a product. Your works could be words. Words are knowledge that we can communicate to those around us. Our experiences have a value to them. I challenge you to package your experiences in a way that is going to serve others on their path in life. 

My closing thoughts are encouragement for you to take on your demons. Many people have healed and you can too. Here is a quote from Elizabeth Smart from her book: My Story

Elizabeth Smart said: 

“But the human spirit is resilient. God made us so. He gave us the ability to forgive. To leave our past behind. To look forward instead of back. I’m not the first one who has ever done this… Since the beginning of time, men have found ways to heal.”

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